This past Saturday evening I spent a very nice hour and change talking with Stephen Sondheim.
Since I started writing the cryptic crosswords for The Sondheim Review a few years ago, we have exchanged emails on a handful of occasions, generally about the puzzles. These exchanges have always been polite and cordial. A while ago, I learned that a local regional theater, Cincinnati Playhouse in the Park, would be producing a revival of Sondheim's Merrily We Roll Along, directed by John Doyle. This is also where the recent Broadway revival of Company originated, so I think there's a similar expectation that this will move to NYC. I suspected that Sondheim would be in town for it at some point, so I wrote him and mentioned that if he was in fact going to be around, I'd like to invite him over for dinner and a boardgame or something if his schedule permitted. He said he'd love to, to call him Steve, and we'd figure something out as time drew nearer.
As it turned out, he was only going to be in for one day, seeing a preview performance and meeting the director after. But if I liked, we could meet for drinks beforehand? I managed somehow to clear my schedule and said sure, that'd be great. Cell phone numbers were exchanged.
All of which, I should mention, just felt very surreal. I showed up at the appointed time at the swanky cocktail lounge of a hotel in Cinci, where Sondheim was with a group of older, well-heeled producer types. I sort of hovered by the table, until one of the ladies noticed me and said "oh, you must be Mark!". Sondheim introduced me around, and then announced to the group that he and I were going to head to the bar for a private chat. First though, he excused himself to the loo. When he was gone, the older lady turned to me and said "You're Mark who writes the puzzles, right? He's a HUGE fan of yours." Whoooosh, straight down the rabbit hole.
Then he got back, and we sat at the bar and talked. I was afraid it was going to be polite and awkward, but in fact it was a warm, engaged, and interesting conversation, during which we both laughed a lot. In no particular order, we talked among other things about movies, puzzles, Merrily, St. Paul's cathedral, and things that made us cry for reasons other than sadness. He told a mildly smutty anecdote about Arthur Miller and Mia Farrow, and then got embarrassed and apologized for being a name-dropper. He was very interested in hearing about the MIT Mystery Hunt, and he talked about various puzzle-events that he had devised. At one point he asked if I'd wanted to be an artist when I was a kid, and I said no, I'd wanted to be a magician, and that still shows up in my work: a fascination with the hidden structure behind visual or written effects, revelations, themes, etc. He said he'd first wanted to be a magician too, and that he knew "we had a lot of the same DNA". Whoooooosh.
And finally time was up, and he rejoined his group as their ride to the theater showed up. I was invited to join them, but I'd driven myself, so declined. Handshakes, hugs, "talk again soon"s. And that was that.
If I'm a little gushy and self-indulgent in describing this, I can't apologize for it. I loved every single second. I've given some thought over the last few months to why being in touch with or meeting this particular person meant as much to me as it clearly did. Sure, he's world-famous in the field that I'm in, but celebrity really doesn't mean much to me; I've met and/or worked with more than a few celebs over the years, and I'm in no way prone to being star-struck or automatically impressed. I think what it comes down to is this: when I think about how I approach projects that matter to me, puzzles or designs or whatever, and I think about what I try to bring to bear on them -- a deference to the material, an appreciation for craftsmanship, attention to how every detail fits together and an intolerance for shoddiness -- I think about the material I was listening to when I was first figuring out how I could work and what I could aspire to, and realize where I got those things. Artistically speaking, anyhow, Sondheim was the Great Teacher in my life. It was nice, if not to thank him for that in so many words, at least to be able to shake his hand.